A threat called “daddy issue” syndrome!
Daddy issue syndrome is generally a catchphrase that is often used derogatorily to refer to women who have complicated, confusing, or dysfunctional relationships with men, and to describe people (mostly women) who have unconscious drives and impulses. They are compared to the men in their lives. These impulses can be negative or positive and result from an inadequate paternal relationship.
According to Brena, the signs of daddy issue syndrome are usually seen when the girl feels needs during a relationship, but is unable to recognize the type of need and starts making excuses or behaving inconsistently.
This syndrome mostly occurs in girls whose psychological need for father's attention has not been met for any reason, including parental divorce, death or neglect. They have not had the opportunity to spend time with their father properly and they have not benefited from his emotional presence, the first and most important sign of daddy issue syndrome is that they are attracted to people with a large age difference. They show great interest in older men.
Psychologist Jafar Ardabili, in a conversation with the youth club reporter of Barna News Agency, about the emerging syndrome of “Father's Issue” which is commonly known as “Daddy Issue”, said: The penetration of all kinds of psychological words into Iranian society and culture requires scientific work.
He added: “Daddy issue” or, in Persian, “disturbance of the problem with the father” is also one of the issues that needs to be proven, because the statistical society has not been prepared in this regard, and it is just a rumor in the minds of a segment of people. This rumor may be confused with the phenomenon of “Shougerdi”, which in any case does not have high statistics.
Interest in old age is divided into three categories
Hamburg University professor divided young girls' interest in older men into three categories and continued: This interest can be due to the older man's more experience, another type of this interest is related to the older man's financial need and interest in money And in the last category, interest is based on the deficiencies that the girl has experienced in relation to her father, and now she seeks to compensate for these deficiencies in her older husband.
By stating that this trend can be formed by several factors, he explained: in other words, the choice of an older man by young girls shows the girl's need for an experienced man; This feeling of need can originate from a bad relationship with the father; Also, if the girl has experienced a good relationship with her father, she seeks to repeat that experience at an older age. In other cases, money may be one of the main factors, and in other cases, combined factors are involved.
Pointing to the opposite of this case, this psychologist said: In the case of boys who tend towards older women, the reasons for more experience and maternal love and even financial need are true.
A large age gap indicates the difference of generations
Ardabili continued by stating that a real marriage is despite the wishes and mentalities: although the lack or desire for the position of a father is among the factors of this disorder; But none of these factors are the real factors of a real marriage; If they are, they will definitely face a long-term and extensive anomaly or a temporary anomaly.
Referring to the generational difference, this psychologist said: Normally, these marriages are not approved by psychological science, because the large age gap indicates cultural differences, generational differences, and differences in births, while raising children will also be troublesome.
He proposed “Dedi Ishu Disorder” as a psychological hypothesis and said: Before a common behavior in the society is questioned with a specialized term, the scientific burden related to the relevant term should be increased and research can be carried out from the threshold. A statistical population was extracted.
